{"id":2745,"date":"2013-11-28T21:15:34","date_gmt":"2013-11-29T02:15:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.katrinakenison.com\/?p=2745"},"modified":"2013-11-28T21:15:34","modified_gmt":"2013-11-29T02:15:34","slug":"bit-gracie-gratitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/katrinakenison.com\/new\/bit-gracie-gratitude\/","title":{"rendered":"A bit more about Gracie, gratitude, and you. . ."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"IMG_5604\u201cA really companionable and indispensable dog is an accident of nature. You can\u2019t get it by breeding for it, and you can\u2019t buy it with money. It just happens along.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

— from E.B. White on Dogs<\/strong><\/p>\n

I<\/span> almost didn\u2019t write about losing our beloved dog Gracie last week. My grief felt so raw, so private, and so painful. I wasn\u2019t sure I could put it into words or share it in public. Our family was in mourning, tender and sad. My first impulse was to turn inward, to hunker down in my house and have a long cry.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, for the last four years I\u2019ve made a practice of writing here about both the joys and challenges of my life, reflections that are always personal but that also, I hope, touch something universal. I had written about our Gracie while she lived. It seemed only fitting to let you know she was gone.<\/p>\n

\"IMG_3556\"Each day this week, I lit a candle in the midst of a makeshift Gracie altar in the middle of our kitchen. We have taken some solace in having lots of photos of her propped up along the shelf. Her empty collar is here. Her leash. Her tennis ball and ball flinger. A bit of her white tail hair, tied in a ribbon. It feels both good and sad to have these things, and to have a place to go when we wonder why she isn\u2019t where she belongs, curled up in a tidy oval shape on the rug or sitting, alert, on her favorite rock in the back yard.<\/p>\n

And each day this week I\u2019ve also read your beautiful, wise, consoling comments — some of them several times and through tears. And so, on this Thanksgiving evening, I simply want to let you know how much your words have meant to me and to all of us who loved Gracie.<\/p>\n

I am still a bit stunned by the depth of caring and compassion that can exist between people who may not know one another in person but who share a bond. Everyone who\u2019s ever lost a cherished animal knew exactly how to reach out and exactly what I needed to hear. You understood, too, just how bleak and quiet life can feel. How empty a house can be and how long and lonely the nights are when there\u2019s no one snoring softly at the foot of the bed or scratching at the door at dawn.<\/p>\n

Reading your words over these past days, I\u2019ve felt less alone. I\u2019ve loved hearing about your lives and your special pets. With each story and condolence, you helped me remember there will surely be another dog for us to welcome into our lives and into our hearts, not to replace Gracie but to love in a different way. And you reminded me that the beloved dogs who bring such joy to our days also teach us much about letting go.<\/p>\n

I wish I could write a personal letter back to each and every one of you who took the time this week to write me or to leave a comment. But I couldn\u2019t have done that and also managed to teach my yoga classes, clean the house, get the laundry and grocery shopping done, and make Thanksgiving dinner for my family. So, instead, I will simply offer my heartfelt thanks here and hope that it\u2019s enough.<\/p>\n

T<\/span>his year, for the first time, the Thanksgiving baton was passed to me. After more than 50 years of hosting our family holiday dinner, my parents were ready to be guests instead of cooks. These are huge shoes for me to fill. Till today, I\u2019d never cooked a turkey in my life (Steve and my brother, on grilling duty in separate households, \u00a0began texting about times and temperatures at 7 am this morning). \u00a0I’ve never coordinated a meal with so many required dishes, or used all the burners on my stove and every rack in my oven at once.<\/p>\n

\"Thanksgiving\u201cStart tomorrow,\u201d my mom advised me on Sunday night. And then she read me her recipe for stuffing. Henry arrived home on Monday afternoon and the two of us got busy. All week I kept meaning to sit down and write a blog post, but there was never a moment.<\/p>\n

Now, the dishes are done, Steve has put his mom’s silver back in its wooden box, the left-overs are stacked in the refrigerator, and everyone\u2019s gone home. It\u2019s too late, and I\u2019m too tired, to write any more tonight. \u00a0 But I\u2019ve just read a beautiful essay about gratitude my friend Pamela<\/strong><\/a> posted this morning. I don’t even remember writing the lines she quotes from my blog from a year ago but they seem almost prescient now, certainly just right for today. This, I think, is why I write in the first place — to tell myself what I most need to hear and to remind myself of what I already know. Which is simply this: Life will always offer us our share of losses and challenges. But it also offers countless opportunities to pause and give thanks for all we have.<\/p>\n

From my blog, November 20, 2012:<\/strong><\/em>
\nFor gratitude, as we all know, is not a given but rather a way of being to be cultivated. It doesn\u2019t come packaged like the Stouffer\u2019s stuffing mix nor is it ensured by the name of the holiday. No, real \u201cthanksgiving\u201d requires us to pause long enough to feel the earth beneath our feet, to gaze up into the spaciousness of the sky above, and to stop and take a good, long, loving look at the precious faces sitting across from us at the dinner table.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Life can turn on a dime. Not one of us knows, ever, what fate has in store, or what challenges await just around the bend. But I do know this: nothing lasts. Life is an interplay of light and shadow, blessings and losses, moments to be endured and moments I would give anything to live again. I will never get them back, of course, can never re-do the moments I missed or the ones I still regret, any more than I can recapture the moments I desperately wanted to hold onto forever. I can only remind myself to stay awake, to pay attention, and to say my prayer of thanks for the only thing that really matters: this life, here, now.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Signed books for Christmas.<\/span><\/h3>\n

I’ll be joining 19 other local authors on Sunday afternoon, Dec. 1, from 2-4<\/strong> at my local independent bookstore’s Holiday Fair<\/strong><\/a>. \u00a0If you’re in the area, stop by the Peterborough Toadstool<\/strong> and say hello.<\/p>\n

Happily, you don’t have to be my neighbor to get a signed, personalized, and gift-wrapped book for someone on your list. \u00a0Just click here. <\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

And of course I’m always honored to receive a request for signed bookplates. \u00a0Click here. <\/a>\u00a0I will mail yours right off to you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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