{"id":1017,"date":"2012-07-22T22:26:52","date_gmt":"2012-07-23T02:26:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.katrinakenison.com\/?p=1017"},"modified":"2012-07-22T22:26:52","modified_gmt":"2012-07-23T02:26:52","slug":"walking-to-remember","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/katrinakenison.com\/new\/walking-to-remember\/","title":{"rendered":"Walking to remember"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Turning the calendar page to August is always a little hard for me. There is no denying that we\u2019re entering the final weeks of summer, that the days are growing shorter, that there\u2019s more dead-heading going on in the garden than new growth, that the sun at twilight seems more fragile somehow, less robust than the relentless blast of July. I begin to mark time: the end of raspberry season, the passing of peaches, the crickets\u2019 first evening symphony, spikes of goldenrod appearing alongside the road.<\/p>\n

For me, too, August will forever be remembered as the month when I had to begin saying good-bye to my friend Diane. Two summers ago, as we sat on her patio and drank iced tea and talked for hours, I couldn\u2019t quite imagine the world without her in it.<\/p>\n

This, of course, is what grief is all about. We become familiar with the unimaginable and, in the process, we are made profoundly aware of the fragility of our own ordinary days. We learn firsthand that sorrow and loss are part of being human. That hearts can break and then, slowly, begin to mend. That out of deep sadness can come goodness. And, finally, that with each act of kindness and compassion, with each gesture we make in the memory of our loved one, we bring healing not only to ourselves but out into the world as well.<\/p>\n

Last September, I completed my first Jimmy Fund Marathon Walk. I walked the 26 miles from Hopkinton to Boston because I believed it was the best way to honor my dear friend \u2013 by carrying forward the work she believed in so passionately.<\/p>\n

Diagnosed with stage four ovarian cancer at age 51, Diane made two choices: to respond to her disease with aggressive treatment and to fully embrace the simple pleasures of her everyday life. Under the cutting-edge care of the Dana Farber Cancer Institute, she was able to do both for nearly four years.<\/p>\n

During that time, she also worked tirelessly to support ovarian cancer research, completing three Jimmy Fund walks even while undergoing treatment herself, participating in several clinical trials, and raising thousands of dollars.<\/p>\n

As Diane\u2019s husband David recalled, \u201cShe was animated by a desire to live for the things that mattered to her most \u2013 mothering, friendships, and giving back. She experimented with clinical trials that had very little prospect of advancing her situation, but gave generously to potentially advance the science.\u201d<\/p>\n

That was Diane \u2013 determined, always, to find meaning and purpose in the time she had, even as her disease chipped away at so much of what she loved. As her own journey came to and end, Diane made another decision. She asked that those who wished to remember her do so by carrying on in her footsteps. More than anything, she hoped that more effective treatments and earlier detection might make other women\u2019s prognoses better than her own.<\/p>\n

Team Diane was formed in response to that wish. Walking together last year, this small group of Diane\u2019s close friends raised over $35,000 for her cause.<\/p>\n

It was a great achievement, made possible in part by your generous donations to my walk. What touched me most of all last year was the realization that it made no difference at all that most readers of my blog didn\u2019t know Diane personally.<\/p>\n

What mattered much more was the fact that there is barely a soul among us whose life has not been touched by cancer. We have all lost someone or supported a loved one through dark hours. And so, far flung as we may be, we do share a common goal and a deep sense of connection. Whether we are called to walk, or to open our hearts and pocketbooks in support of those who walk, we are all partners in this work. And together we DO make a difference.<\/p>\n

I am proud to walk again this year. Team Diane has mobilized with renewed commitment — we hope to meet or exceed last year\u2019s total on September 9. Best of all: all monies raised will go directly to Diane’s Fund<\/a>, established this spring by the Brewster family to support ovarian cancer research under the direction of Diane’s Dana Farber oncologist, Dr. Ursula Matulonis.<\/p>\n

This week, I began training in earnest for the 26-mile trek on September 9. As I walk the country roads around my home in New Hampshire, I carry my friend in my heart, knowing that in some way she is accompanying me with every step, urging me on. But this year, I also have a sense of just how vast this network of love and hope and connection really is. I may walk alone, but I know now that I\u2019m also part of something that is bigger, and far more powerful, than any one of us.<\/p>\n

If you supported me last year and wish to do so again, I\u2019d be most grateful. And to all of you who are new to this space, please know that there is no pressure here, but rather an invitation to join me in an effort that means a great deal to me personally — and that will surely touch each of our lives at some point. (According to the American Cancer Society, in 2012 alone more than 22,000 American women will be diagnosed with ovarian cancer. This deadliest of all gynecologic cancers will claim more than 15,000 lives this year.)<\/p>\n

Diane and I shared a love of Mary Oliver\u2019s poetry<\/a>, and of one poem in particular, \u201cThe Summer Day,\u201d which ends with these lines, a prescient reminder that life is both fleeting and inexpressibly lovely.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know exactly what a prayer is.
\nI do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
\ninto the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
\nhow to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
\nwhich is what I have been doing all day.
\nTell me, what else should I have done?
\nDoesn\u2019t everything die at last, and too soon?
\nTell me, what is it you plan to do
\nwith your one wild and precious life? <\/em><\/p>\n

And so, because I think it would please my friend, I\u2019d love to share our favorite poet with you. If you do donate below, leave a comment and let me know. I will select at random one winner on Wednesday, August 1, to receive Volumes One and Two of Mary Oliver\u2019s New and Selected Poems<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Thanks so much for your support!<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to help:<\/strong><\/p>\n

**To make a quick and easy tax-deductible contribution to my walk on Sept. 9, CLICK HERE<\/a>.<\/p>\n

**If you prefer to donate by check, please make it payable to Jimmy Fund Marathon Walk, and write \u201cDIANE\u2019S FUND\u201d in the memo line. Then mail it to me, Katrina Kenison, at 101 Middle Hancock Rd, Peterborough, NH 03458.<\/p>\n

**Widen the circle by sharing this post with your friends, on your Facebook page, and on Twitter.<\/p>\n

To read more about the cutting edge research being carried out by Dr. Matulonis and her team at Dana Farber, CLICK HERE<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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