I suspect I’m not the only woman who finds herself thinking about truth and sex and high school this week. As supporters of Judge Brett Kavanaugh mount their crusade against Christine Blasey Ford, many of us are wondering what we would do in her shoes.
If it were me, could I endure the pressure and continue to stand my ground for the sake of the integrity of the Supreme Court? Would I have the courage to show up on a national stage and speak the truth, despite the massive attempts on the right to undermine me? Sitting alone in the safety of my own quiet home, my heart goes out to this deeply private woman who made the brave choice of stepping forward, only to be forced into hiding by death threats. I honestly have no idea whether I could put myself through the hostile process that will surely unfold next week if Dr. Ford decides to testify under oath even in the absence of the FBI investigation she has rightfully requested. But there’s one thing I do know: I absolutely believe she is telling the truth.
In the photo above, I am fifteen or sixteen, close to the age Dr. Ford was when she was assaulted in a locked room by a drunk older boy while his buddy first urged him on and then warned him to stop. This picture brings back all sorts of memories – of the kitchen in my house where it was taken, of the time it spent to blow dry my hair into that careful pageboy, of the shark-tooth choker I’m wearing around my neck. I remember the shirt, too – it was my “going out” blouse, an ivory smock I thought was soft and pretty and a bit bohemian. As soon as I came across the photo, I remembered another thing about that top: I always wore it with a leotard underneath. In those pre-camisole days, a leotard meant you had to get completely undressed to go to the bathroom. But a leotard under a loose blouse was also a necessary, albeit thin, line of defense against an unwanted male hand grabbing at your breasts.
As I approach sixty, I realize how much of the past I’ve forgotten over the years – the little things, the passing moments, the sweet ordinary memories that add up to a good, decent life.
But there are also incidents that remain indelible, even now. And many of those moments have to do with early sexual experiences, both good and bad. My own most intimate memories from high school and college are especially, sometimes painfully, vivid. The more disturbing ones are irrevocably lodged in my body, in my mind, and sometimes, still, in my dreams.
Coming of age, coming into our own as women, coming into our sexuality, navigating our way through our own first, fumbling sexual encounters — whether we initiate them, welcome them, or survive them; whether they are exhilarating or terrifying — this is big stuff.
You’d think it would go without saying.
And yet, today I feel the need today to say it: When it comes to sex, women don’t forget what we did or who we did it with, no matter how many years have passed. We most certainly remember, with precise and painful clarity, what was done to us. And we remember who did it.
This, apparently, is news to the men who now claim Christine Blasey Ford must be suffering from some kind of confusion or amnesia about exactly who assaulted her. How else to explain their latest line of defense of Brett Kavanaugh?
That seventeen-year-old kid who clamped a hand over fifteen year-old Christine’s Blasey’s mouth to keep her from screaming while he tried to rape her? That guy couldn’t have been our Supreme Court nominee! It must have been some other guy. Poor, confused Dr. Ford just doesn’t remember who.
Forty-two years after graduating from high school, I can still name the gropers. I remember exactly who they were. I remember what they looked like. I remember exactly what they did. I remember how ashamed and humiliated they made me feel. I remember keeping quiet, because to speak about these unspeakable things would somehow mean acknowledging the truth of them, and that would have been sickening and terrifying. And, while I did not find myself trapped in a room with a potential rapist at age fifteen, it requires no great leap of imagination on my part to envision the horror of such an assault or its after effects: a lifetime of nightmarish remembering, coping, healing.
This kind of pain doesn’t fade and get blurry around the edges over time. The face of one’s attacker doesn’t gradually morph into some other vaguely familiar face from the past. No. Just ask any survivor: the memory is the thing lasts. A woman who has been physically attacked by a man does not forget the experience, she relives it. Over time, if she’s lucky, she finds a way to move forward, albeit haunted by the ever-present, sharp-edged awareness of what was done to her. She lives while also knowing that the very person who inflicted that harm has rewritten the story so that he can live with himself: as if innocent, as if blameless, as if it never happened at all.
The men (and they are, for the most part, men) who are mounting a defense of Brett Kavanaugh on the basis of “mistaken identity” may look back on their own sexual exploits as a series of successful conquests or humiliating failures in which their consensual partners or unwilling victims were indistinguishable from one another and therefore forgettable.
It’s an appalling thought. But it seems that’s really how it was for these guys. They would have us believe that their youthful “escapades” meant little then and less now. To them, we were randomly appealing teenaged bodies to be lured in, pinned down, used and walked away from, with nary a backward glance.
Apparently that’s the way the Republicans on the judiciary committee still see things. How else could they so glibly justify Kavanaugh’s questionable past and, at the same time, work so vehemently to erode Dr. Ford’s credibility? Why else would they adamantly refuse to step on the brakes and call for an investigation that could either clear Judge Kavanaugh’s name or shed objective light on the facts as Dr. Ford remembers them? And how else could they expect anyone to buy this ridiculous line of defense?
And yet here we are, being told to shut up and swallow it as Brett Kavanaugh’s champions race him toward confirmation. It’s quite a disturbing glimpse into the inner workings of the mind of a certain kind of man. A man who experiences sex as being disconnected from feelings. A man who sees sex as his right. A man for whom sex is something to be done, denied, forgotten. A man much like the one in the White House.
further . . .
After a summer away from this space, I did not intend to resume writing with a post about politics. In fact, my intent was to share some reflections about reconnecting with my beloved first grade teacher. That story will wait. This one couldn’t. I felt moved to gather my own thoughts after listening to Atlantic writer Caitlin Flanagan recall being assaulted by a high school classmate, and the effect of that single traumatic incident. You can listen to her interview on the New York Times Daily here.
Dr. Ford’s credibility is supported by this NYT article by a psychiatrist who explains the neuroscience behind memories formed under the influence of intense emotion.
Michele Goldberg’s voice on the NYT opinion pages always makes me feel smarter and less alone. Read why she hopes Dr. Ford will testify next week here.
Twenty-seven years ago, Anna Quindlen wrote this piece about the Anita Hill hearings. She just reposted it on Facebook, acknowledging how dispiriting it is to realize that she could have as easily written it yesterday. As Anna pointed out then, and as so many of us agree now: “It is difficult to feel polite watching the white men of the United States Senate and realizing that their first response when confronted with a serious allegation of sexual harassment against a man nominated to the high court was to rush to judgment. It is difficult to feel polite, knowing they were more concerned about how this looked for them, for their party, their procedures and their political prospects than in discovering what really happened.” Yes.
Two more essays by women this week remind us that this conversation is so much bigger than the one that breaks down along party lines. Deborah Copaken’s piece in the Atlantic, “My Rapist Apologized” , was one of the most-read and shared essays of the weekend. A must read.
And Theresa Brown, writing in the New York Times, calls out a culture in which sexual assault is viewed as normal and forgivable. Her essay speaks to and for us all.
Oh Katrina!!
THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts and making a statement on this!!!! IT IS SO IMPORTANT!!!! You speak truth in this article that will resonate with all women!
You are courageous also to address things we just cannot ignore!
I am blessed to be a follower of yours.
Wow, Katrina. You absolutely nailed this. You put into articulate form the rush of emotions, thoughts and memories that have been surfacing in me these past couple of weeks. You so beautifully describe the stunning truth that is playing out on our national stage. It has been so disheartening, for me personally and for millions of women across the country. Have we made so little progress since you and I were teenagers? It seems so. Thank you for sharing your honest and thoughtful words with us, and for all the enlightening links you included at the end of your piece. Thank you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for these articulate words helping me immensely make sense of this latest government mess. I know some of your followers don’t approve of you sharing political views. I live in Canada and totally struggle with what is going on in the U.S. with the president and now this. I don’t watch the news because it is too upsetting. However, all these stories find ways into my bone marrow and make me ill. Your words always shine light on my jumbled and confused thoughts. Thank you SO much for consistently sharing from your heart.
Thank you. Your share here is so powerful. I am so, so grateful for your courage and your willingness to add an eloquent voice to this growing chorus. We must stand strong together. Those of us still searching for our voices appreciate this more than you may know.
Good lord, you said this perfectly, Katrina. So painful, so appalling. Utterly true. We must do everything to keep him from being nominated.
Thank you so much!
Peace and love,
Christy
Thank you for being so eloquent and brave. I always need your words to validate my thoughts. So good to hear from you.
THANK YOU for writing this post.
Thank you for your timely and heartfelt observations. It has helped me focus my thoughts and feelings around this issue. I especially like being reminded (through your photo) of our 15 year old selves, and how we never forget these moments of vulnerability.
Once again you’ve so perfectly captured my thoughts. Thank you. Have you sent your words to your Senators? To all Senators? Every one of us must speak up in some way for decency, And you do it so well.
Thank you for your timely words. You have helped me clarify my thoughts and feelings about this. I especially am reminded through your photo of the vulnerability of our 15 year old selves. We do not forget those moments, and the feelings they evoke.
I am in tears as I write to thank you for connecting with all women,and all victims of assault. My own story came rushing back as I read your powerful words.I cannot express the solace I find in your writing. I also believe that we all must stand together. Thank you for your words that help us all.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience. This all rings too true for many, including me. Let’s hope that those who allow this nomination to go forward will have their day in court in November when we vote them out.
Thank you for these strong and true words. I feel so disheartened by what’s happening to Dr. Ford and by the way women continue to be devalued in this culture. But I sense a sea change coming. As more and more women come into positions of power – and may those numbers increase in November – I have hope for change.
As always you articulate my thoughts and feelings so beautifully.
Thank you! I am so glad you went ahead with publicly sharing your thoughts. Thank you, thank you, thank you. We need to be talking about our experiences as young girls and women.
Thank you Katrina you have once again thoughtfully worded the deeply hidden feelings and thoughts of so many of us once young girls who have experienced “boys being boys” back in a time when it was unwise for us to speak up. I too have no doubt that Dr. Ford is telling the truth about her frightening experience with a 17 year old boy who now is looking at a lifetime appointment to the highest Court in our country. Would I have her courage?
This. Totally. Resonates. How many of us women can say the same?
” And, while I did not find myself trapped in a room with a potential rapist at age fifteen, it requires no great leap of imagination on my part to envision the horror of such an assault…”
Thanks for your beautiful writing and clarity.
Katrina, it was only yesterday when I thought how much I have missed your beautifully-written essays….then, lo, my wish was granted when I opened my Inbox to find you here today.
Thank you, once again; your photo and the words are deeply authentic for many, many women and may offer solace, as well.
I have posted this to my FaceBook page and will share with everyone in my addressbook.
Much needed wisdom Katrina, thank you.
Thank you for bringing your thoughts to the forefront. You say out loud what many of us are thinking, but may not have the courage to vocalize. At the tender age of 12 through
16, we are so vulnerable with our emotions and changes in our own bodies. When I
rewatched the Anita Hill/ Clarence Thomas hearings, I cringe to see how little we have
advanced in 27 years. It makes me sad when I realize we have not properly addressed the issues with respect to women and the fact that many men have not progressed in their thinking about women’s rights. I thought we made our point with Women’s Lib, but maybe our voices need to be stronger and louder.
There is nothing to share over and beyond the comments of my ‘sisters’ who care. As to Katrina, I learn from you, I am inspired by you and I am so grateful that you have the ability, this platform and the clarity to engage us. We are at a pitiful state right now. As women, we must stand together, stay together and DEMAND that wrong be made right. I, too, lived through the Anita Hill miscarriage of justice. She had twenty – two, yes 22 witnesses AND still Clarence Thomas was endorsed to the Supreme Court. What will our daughters think? What are our moms thinking? When will this horror stop? I’m soon to be 74 – maybe in my lifetime? Thanks to each of you who have shared your support for Katrina and one another. Sending light in every corner that is in darkness right now. It’s challenging to have faith that truth will prevail.
Thank you as we are all struggling wondering about the courage it takes to really stand tall amid hostility.
The way you have described our coming of age is so important and yes, I remember his mouth on mine and my heart pounding and awaking into a different body, the one that had housed my soul only to find she had gone on to hide.
Not reported, who could, silent in cells, often screaming so much my head cannot clear. But silent because, as we still see, we caused this apparently and the boy/man who did this to me did move on with some level that what he did was OK in some dark part of our sexual disfunction.
The treatment of women is reflected in the treatment of our natural world, in the abuse of others and the economies they are based on. This issue has permeated or lives for far too long and I can only hope the silver lining here will make us really not allow abuse any longer, to others or our environment.
In the hopes of regaining humanity, I send love to you dear Katrina
Bravo and thank you!!! And brought tears to my eyes!!
Thank you for being a voice of reason. We read a woman’s painful admission and we recall our own assault. We listen to men disparage and dismiss this assault, and we recall how we we were told we did something to trigger this response. We are shamed and silenced by the powerful, and we bury these memories deep down inside.
I hope every woman who has suffered abuse is empowered to speak the truth.
Thank you, Katrina, for writing this post. The response by the GOP is alarming and absolutely vile. As elected officials they have an obligation to be better public servants, and frankly, better humans. Looking at my own teenage daughter, I hope her generation is able to tip the scales, but in the meantime, I am more vigilant and determined to channel my anger into creating positive change in November. I grew up in Bethesda, MD and graduated from high school in the mid-80s. It is jarring to see the names of familiar schools in the national headlines. I have no trouble imagining the situation and believe Dr. Ford.
Thank you once again for articulating my own experiences and dismay at current events. Once again we must determine not to throw our hands up and do nothing. It was infuriating to observe the Thomas hearings as a law student. I recall role playing how to respond to verbal harassment on the job. 27 years later it seems little has changed in Washington. I can only hope women show up
at the polls and any other opportunity to be heard, again and again.
Well written, but we need to hear what they both have to say. None of us actually know what happened that day except for Dr Ford and Judge Kavanaugh and perhaps Mr Judge. To categorize people as uncaring or predetermined without really knowing them isn’t how any of us want to be treated. Dr Ford deserves that respect as a human being, but so does Judge Kavanaugh. I am sure if Judge Kavanaugh is found to be lying, he’ll not be confirmed. Multiple Republican Senators have already stated this to him directly and to the Press. So, although I agree with your sentiment, I think you could be more objective in your thinking … with all due respect.
Katrina, I am so grateful for your courage and open heart and eloquence: whether writing about family life or the piercing sense of loss we feel as our children head out into the world—or the feeling of sorrow so many of us are experiencing in the face of this week’s news and the vitriol faced by a woman and mother who seems so familiar, you have offered solace and a way forward at crucial times.
Thank you for your words of wisdom and affirmation. Those of us who KNOW…know Blasey Ford would not have come forward if her story wasn’t true.
Katrina, your words are powerful and absolutely true. We never forget, we know the day, the face and hands and even what we were wearing, what went through our minds during the assault. Thankfully mine was “just” an assault, not a rape, at age 16, betrayed and groped by a family doctor in his office. It took me 50 years to come to grips with the fact that what happened was indeed an assault, a criminal act. Thank you for speaking truth so powerfully. Until we all stand up to our realities and speak our truth this sort of thing will continue to be accepted as boys being boys.
Your need to allow your thoughts to be written and shared is so powerful and important! As I listened to the insensitive remarks and bullying demands made by the men in the senate, I was appalled and disgusted. They have no understanding of women or empathy towards them and any females in their families should be ashamed of their disgraceful behavior! It’s so hard to make sense of this repetition of what occurred to Anita Hill 27 years ago.
Bravo. Bravo. So well said. It never leaves, we may suppress but we never erase. We express our shock and dismay and empathy for what has happened in the Catholic Church but generosity of spirit dies when applied to these wounds. And victims go to their graves with their secrets. I absolutely believe her.
Amazing! After 40 years she can still can name the gropers!!
I live outside Charlottesville. An article printed in Rolling Stone magazine a few years ago shocked and disgusted me. It described the experience of a fraternity party gang rape of a First Year coed and her treatment to find justice, However, it was a lie. Many lives were impacted by her lie from male students and female UVA administrators. So yes, let there be an FBI investigation and let both sides request the environment for questioning. Let the truth overcome any darkness of doubt. I recall that you have two sons. If they are ever in this situation I hope they are innocent until proven guilty. Have you asked them for a truthful account of their high school days with young women under the influence of akchol or drugs? Here in Charlottesville a UVA LAX player, in a drunken stupor, killed his girlfriend who was leaving him. I saw his legal team argue he did not know what he was doing because he was drunk….so not murder, manslaughter which saved him from execution when sentenced. Alcohol and drugs are no excuse for bad behavior. So yes, let’s hear what happened 36 years ago.
Too bad Ted Kennedy left his date for 7 hours in his car submerged in water. Some of the people on this committee welcomed him back after being re-elected by the people of Massachusetts. Time to drain the swamp.
THANK YOU! This conversation needs to continue and be talked about. I’m glad you made the decision to write it. I find myself hesitating too, but this is one way to rise up. Much love – Navreet
Thank you Katrina for writing this so thoughtfully and sharing what a lot of us feel or have felt at some point in our lives.
Thank you Katrina and all of you ladies who have responded in voices that echo my thoughts throughout this turbulent week. Sometimes I feel that everyone is either looking the other way, or deliberately pre-judging this woman, or are too busy to understand the significance of these events and their consequences; I applaud those who are standing up and speaking out. I remain hopeful that Dr. Ford’s efforts will result in this man not being appointed to our highest court of law.
I agree that if Brett Kavenaugh is guilty he should reap the consequences but we need to always remember that in this country we are innocent until proven guilty. This protocol protects ALL of us. What Kavenaugh is accused of is very serious and should NOT be taken lightly but remember that so far he is only ACCUSED. He has not been tried and found guilty. There is a very real possibility that things did NOT happen the way Dr. Ford said. We need to be very careful here. He may NOT be guilty.
Thank you Ana for your message….. I do agree with you. It IS very important never to pre-judge people, and it remains the foundation of our democracy. On that point, I stand corrected.
You would think that the committee would remember the fiasco with Anita Hill and Clarence Thomas and how we ended up with the disaster of him as a Supreme Court Justice for life. We never seem to learn and just keep repeating the same horrible mistakes!! The courage it takes for these women to stand tall and come forward is amazing. I pray justice and goodness will prevail.
A difference between Hill/Thomas and Ford/Kavanaugh is a sitting Federal Executive/Staffer and two hormonal high schoolers. Ask what your high school student did when they come home tonight. Drugs, alcohol, unsafe sexual practices….maybe all. New England has an opioid crisis because there seems to be not that much to do but look at the scenery. What has Hillary done for you as she said she would. Politics…all of this. But yes….we are ALL innocent until proven guilty. Thank the Salem Witch trials in your neck of the woods for placing that into the Bill of Rights. All those men saying yes, we believe those who say, these are witches…women. Burn them alive. Who needs a trial. Get a grip people before it is you judged with out due process.
Your writing is very emotional and eloquent, but whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty?
No one know what happened. Not me. Not you. If we all were held accountable for anything stupid we did 40 years ago wow…not many of us would we where we are today.
Thank you so much for your strong beliefs at this very frightening turn in our government.This was important to hear and done so well as always. I really apprecite your work. Made me think of young everywhere and it gave me strength.
The whole scenario should more than ever propel women to run for office and those of us not running to aid their campaigns and vote for them! The most recent election in my city saw the male-dominated 24-member city council become half women and half men. Now, after a year, one long-time male incumbent was recently heard to lament that the city council is “not what it used to be.” And that is partly because the women of the council joined together to make it clear they would no longer put up with the demeaning behavior toward them by some of the long-time male incumbents. Just imagine if a majority of the members of the Judiciary Committee were women! I cannot but help think of the cartoon depiction of the Council on Feline Health as a dozen or so dogs seated around the conference table…
That is a sexist remark if I ever heard one. Just vote based upon one’s sex. Your vote should be for a person who can lead and guide your community regardless of their sex. Your council only stated that they are no longer demeaned…well good for them. What are they DOING? Getting elected is easy…the hard part is governing.
Sorry to have misled you – this council works hard and is accomplishing more than its predecessor council. I certainly don’t vote for women who I don’t think would do a good job, and some of the men on the council are indeed excellent councilors too. My point was that the tenor and accomplishments of the new council have been positively affected by the gender balancing and the women’s wisdom and perspectives. What has changed most is that it is no longer an “old boys” council where long-term incumbents get their way with bullying tactics. And newly-elected women on the council led the intentional efforts that resulted in that change. I don’t think it is sexist to acknowledge that men and women often have different life experiences and perspectives and that these can have an impact on how they respectively view problems and the process of problem-solving. That is my read on how it played out here. Generational differences, too, are definitely part of the picture.
Thank you so much! Every voice so important.
All for one, one for all.
Love, Elizabeth
It is sexist to promote candidates and then vote for them because of their sex. Reread your first sentences. If we want to rid society of sexist behavior our encouraging it or engaging in it is not the way to accomplish this. I am still unclear on their concrete accomplishments. You state new feelings among the council….great….what have they accomplished that differs from the prior council. A fair salary for educators? Improved law enforcement community relationships? Yet that is the way of the hard left and hard right…vague accomplishments.
I’m heartened when something I write strikes a chord. Whether or not readers agree with me, there’s much to be said for engaging in a thoughtful exchange of views. And I appreciate the comments here from those who bring a different perspective to the conversation.
In response the to question, “What about innocent until proven guilty?” I say: Yes, absolutely, the presumption of innocence and guilt beyond reasonable doubt must always apply in a court of law. However, no one is bringing charges against Brett Kavanaugh and this is not a criminal case. It’s a job interview. It’s about assessing the mores and integrity of a man about to assume a lifetime appointment to the highest court in the land.
A Supreme Court justice is different from a postman or a politician or a CEO. And given that we deserve and expect our Supreme Court justices to be singular human beings — honest, possessed of a rigorous moral code, strong of character, and generally beyond reproach – it stands to reason that the background check be thorough, that the vetting process be transparent, that all relevant documents be released before hearings begin (that didn’t happen), and that credible allegations of impropriety be fully investigated by the FBI, whose job it is to provide a thorough background check on each and every nominee. Sometimes that means pausing the process in order to investigate new information. All Americans should demand as much from the Senate Judiciary Committee.
To me, this is not about politics, it’s about due diligence, ethics, and what the Court is meant to represent. Were the nominee a liberal facing these same accusations, my heart would sink. And yet I would feel exactly the same responsibility to speak up and demand an investigation, with witnesses.
Judge Kavanaugh denies any wrong doing. Meanwhile, more individuals are stepping forward with accounts of past behavior that are disturbing at best and should, at the very least, be taken seriously enough to warrant further examination. Assuming he’s telling the truth, I would think he’d be the first to request that the FBI reopen his file and that the matter be fully investigated. He has nothing to lose and everything to gain by clearing his name.
In the meantime, I find the account by the deeply private woman who gathered the courage to speak up about an assault that altered her young life more credible than the denials of the man who claims he never knew her.
The Supreme Court (Judicial) is just one of the three governing branches of our government, along with the Executive (President) and Legislative (Congress). ALL of the members of these branches should be held to the same ethical standards and behavior that you state. Oh, how they have not. FDR died with his girlfriend, not his wife, JFK had numerous romantic meetings with his girlfriends, one allegedly Marilyn Monroe whom he shared, allegedly, with his brother, the Attorney General, Nelson Rockefeller died in his lovers arms, not his wife, Bernie Sanders and his wife are under investigation for bank fraud, Ted Kennedy left his girlfriend for 7 hours submerged under water…she died, Bill Clinton brought attention to the country the sexual practice of oral sex with a White House intern and Donald Trump is under investigation for the practice of adultery and in NY a ground for divorce and nullifying a marital prenup.
These people remained/remain in office with some having major monuments built to their memory. So it seems the swamp has needed to be drained for quite some time. I rule by facts and not emotion. I am still annoyed by the outrageous claim of “Jackie” in the Rolling Stone article of a gang rape at UVA to be a total fabrication. I was one of those protesting the Fraternity. I see those walking out today from school and work and hope they will not feel as I do, betrayed by one of my own.
So yes, innocent until proven guilty does not have to be in a court of law and that applies to both she and he. I accord the same to my children when there is suspect of inappropriate behavior. Parents of boys should be just as diligent in demanding the truth. I know I do, for and from both of mine…of each sex.
Bravo Katrina. Thank you for this. It’s all so true, about the white men and their sense of privilege, and you made it very clear about their thinking girls/women are easily forgotten. So very insightful and true. And the leotard! I’d forgotten about that – how when in high school going out,we Always wore one under our shirts. Thank you.
Eloquent, courageous and spot on Katrina. Thank you for writing what so many have been thinking. I just wish the idiots in Washington would read this. I can’t imagine what that poor woman is going through, it is as criminal as his actions. I’m sure there are more victims out there too that understandably don’t want their lives (and their family’s) turned upside down. I don’t think I could be that brave.
They would only wear leotards today without snaps. Young women not only forgo their bras but liberate themselves and go commando…no panties! My, how things have changed. When was the last time you were on a college campus? Football season is the best with the booze tailgates. In the end, alcohol with a side serving of drugs is the cause of this behavior today and on a much larger scale for both men and women.
She has some really compelling things to say about how all of this has unfolded.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2018/10/04/false-accusations-kavanaugh-ford-innocent-column/1488329002/
Thank you so much for writing so transparently. As you always do. Thank you also for speaking to the ‘tough issues’ as they are what are on our minds, hearts and souls right now. I always appreciate reading what is coming through you — and honor the courage it takes to speak so personally. Thank you.